updated: November 28, 2020
Are you looking to change your life this year dramatically?
Either because you hate where you are in life.
Or feel there is more that you want to accomplish.
Many of us often look at age as and an indicator of where we should be or what we should have.
As much as I can tell you not to compare yourself to others because each journey is different, I often find myself doing the comparison game too. And then I have to rebalance myself and read THE START OF A SUCCESS MINDSET.
Whichever your reason to change your life, I am here to show you real steps that will dramatically change your life in less than a year!
So get your tea, coffee, notes, and bring your growth mindset.
HOW TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE FOR THE BETTER
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1. UNDERSTAND ITS OK NOT TO BE OK
Often people adapt to the mindset that they can’t want more and should be happy where they are in life.
Well, that story is only partly true. Yes, you should show gratitude, and yes you should be present with the life you have. However, not being content where you are is ok.
Some don’t need change
Now don’t get me wrong. There is nothing wrong with being content. It could be many reasons they are happy (content) with their current life situation.
- They are doing better than the people around them. In this case, when you are an idol to others then why would you want to change your life at all. To them and their friends, they made, and that’s cool.
- It’s their season for happiness. Every point in your life may not be…that get more… strive harder mentally. It may be to take a break and smell the roses. For example, they have tried so hard to have a baby, and finally, its come true. Then everything for that moment revolves around their blessing. Cool
- It’s not their personality. Yes, I believe certain personalities are always looking for more while others are like hey I’m just living day by day.
Some want more in life
Getting comfortable and not striving for more is not me and more than likely you’re here because that’s not you either.
Yes, my friend, there is us….who wants it all.
We find ways to organize our homes and lives.
Things to focus on to change your life
- Define what success means to you.
- Strive for a financially free life (no debt my friend).
- Get clear on your values. Have a healthy and loving family with respectful, smart, honest, god-believing children.
Oh and don’t forget about fitting in those jeans!
Hey, I’m right there with you…let’s get it. There are several things you need to do to acquire it all.
2. MAKE SACRIFICES EVEN WHEN YOU FEEL AS THOUGH it’s HARD
In order, to make a quick change in your life, you MUST give up those guilty pleasures.
This is the moment you cry about the things you are about to give up.
If you have a goal to get your body in shape, rid of the baby fat, and have a six-pack stomach, (I’ll settle for one pack). Then you can’t simply hope, visualize and wish for things to change.
You must get rid of the thing standing in your way. Which maybe be sugar, late-night snacking, or not being active.
I am aware of the conversation that you have with yourself about how much you love sweets. Or that having only one won’t hurt.
But your disciplined side needs to tell you “this will go straight to your stomach”. The discipline part has to be strong enough to refrain you from guilty pleasures.
And the goal of your snatched body has to stay in your mind so you can change your life and not be tempted to deter from your goal.
You are at the point where you are tired of telling yourself that WILL do it and just want to DO IT.
Do you want another stream of income? Start your side hustle and stop watching TV or strolling social media.
Read self-help books to advance your mind, book a strategy session with ya girl, and if you love social then follow people who can help you get to the next step and offer motivation toward your goal.
Get rid of the limiting beliefs and titles that don’t serve in your growth process.
3. MAKE THE TIME
This kinda sounds like make sacrifices, but then some people say they don’t have a problem sacrificing things in their life.
Instead, they state that their issue is finding the time. Well….time is not given.
Time is the only thing that you can not buy, save, or share. So treat it like money and audit it so you can know where it’s going.
You have to make THE TIME to change your life and tell yourself a new version of your story.
Eliminate the self-doubt and the belief that keeps you from your six-figure business. Also, learn how to manage the kids, being in school, and/or having a full-time job.
In addition, be aware of the things that can keep you stuck like having a perfectionist mindset. You know the person who appears to be moving but in reality, they are really not going anywhere.
Otherwise, it sounds like the only thing you do have time for is making excuses!! Stop.
Today, I want you to stop making excuses and start creating solutions. So, if you have a full-time job then find 10 mins a day should go toward your business. That’s over 1 hr a week so 4-5 hr a month. It’s like saving pennies..eventually, they add up.
4. START SPEAKING UP AND ASK QUESTIONS
Ok so I’m an introvert, but that doesn’t mean I rather watch Netflix alone with hot chocolate. Ok, that does sound good, but that’s not the point.
If you want to be wealthy and leave your children a legacy. Oh and that’s my baby girl name. Pun intended.
Then you need to get out of your comfort zone and speak up.
You ever heard the saying “a closed mouth doesn’t get fed?” It means if you don’t ask for food then no one will know your hungry so you won’t eat. Therefore, if you don’t ask for what you want, you can’t expect to get it.
So if you want something or need something then learn to Speak up and ASK. There are plenty of times when I had to force myself to ask questions whether on FB or to a stranger on Linkedin about a job.
Task: Reach out to someone who is where I want to be and ask them their story. What’s the worst thing that could happen? Need help getting around fear? Read Tim Ferriss’s 7-Step Checklist for Overcoming Fear
Don’t forget to check out his book Tribe of Mentors and one of my favorite books a 4- hour workweek.
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5. ORGANIZE YOUR LIFE TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE
Nothing gets creative people more frustrated and unmotivated more than disorganization.
This year is the time to organize your life, home, and mind.
You can’t possibly bring in a new love with baggage and clutter from your previous relationships.
Or find time for a side hustle when you don’t know if you’re coming or going.
There is no way you can find a moment or space to create when your house needs to be decluttered. And there are toys and laundry everywhere.
First thing, dump your brain of all your thoughts, desires, and things on your to-do list. The brain dump method will help you refocus and put things in order. Once you clear your mind then simply the heck out of your life.
We are going to make sure this year we start right.
You will have the right mindset, the right tribe, and the right goals.
We are giving up excuses, guilty pleasure, baggage, and fear. Either you will, or you will not make changes but it’s your choice.
Feel free to email me if you need help because I know how it feels to hear the voice telling you that you deserve more!
Hope this gives you the tools you need to change your life for good. If you’re looking for more and need extra help organizing kids, your goals, and your day then check out the Mom Planner!
6. Focus on Manifesting the Sh*t out of Goals
Ok, so you can set goals, start them and not see yourself go anywhere.
Most people don’t realize what you believe and as important as what you do.
By focusing on your belief in yourself, your work and your purpose you will work with the universe instead of against.
Remember BELIEF + ACTION = RESULTS!
quick things to do.
- Make an online vision board
- Understand the Law of Attraction
- Use Quotes to overpower negative self-talk
- Get ahold of your emotional triggers. It the 1 thing that most people don’t handle but cant figure out why they are anger which lowers your vibration.
Final Thought: Change your Life today
If you are serious about changing your life for the better and making more money too then do the work. Nothing comes easy so commit to the change. Besides, we are going to leave everything that didn’t serve us in the last year so we can start new and reduce overwhelm.
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